Relationship Audit Tool

1. Relationship Context

This gives context. It does not determine the outcome by itself.

What type of relationship is this?

How long have you been connected?

What are you hoping this relationship will be or become?

2. Assignment and Season Check

People often try to keep relationships that do not fit the season God is walking them through.

What do you sense God is doing in your life right now?

What season are you in?

Does this relationship support your current season?

It supports and strengthens what God is doing It feels neutral or unclear It distracts from what I need to obey It competes with my assignment and attention

3. Direction and Kingdom Movement

Since this relationship began, your life has mostly:

Moved forward in clarity and obedience Stayed mostly the same Stalled spiritually or emotionally Become more inconsistent or compromised

This person most often:

Reinforces truth, obedience, and maturity Is present but not especially sharpening Avoids truth and difficult conversations Pulls me into distraction, compromise, or delay

4. Fruit Check

After interacting with them, I usually feel:

Peaceful and clear Mixed but manageable Confused and unsettled Anxious, heavy, or emotionally thrown off

Their consistency is best described as:

Stable and reliable Mixed or unpredictable Intense, then distant Repeatedly unstable

Do their actions align with what they say?

Yes, consistently Sometimes Rarely No, not in a trustworthy way

5. Position and Boundary Check

In this relationship, you are mostly:

Balanced and clear Over-giving or over-functioning Chasing clarity, consistency, or attention Avoiding needed conversations

Have you ignored anything God has already highlighted?

No, I have tried to stay honest and responsive Maybe. I have sensed caution but have not fully addressed it Yes. I already know I have overlooked things

6. Prayer Discernment Check

This section does not ask you to guess what God said. It asks whether you have genuinely submitted this relationship to Him.

Have you honestly prayed about this person and relationship?

Yes, honestly and more than once Somewhat, but not deeply or consistently No, not in a surrendered way

When you pray about this relationship, what is most present?

Steady peace and clarity A check, pause, or caution Confusion, double-mindedness, or pressure I avoid praying honestly because I fear what clarity may cost

Does staying connected require compromise?

No, not in any meaningful way Slight compromise or repeated internal tension Yes, it requires me to lower standards or ignore conviction

7. Final Honest Reflection

If nothing changed about this relationship, would you still see it as aligned?

Yes I am unsure No

Anything else you already know but have not wanted to admit?

Why this category appeared

Prayer response

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Relationship Audit